Midlife Transition

One of the most predictable and important turning points that occur in a career is called a midlife transition.  The midlife transition occurs when people take stock of their career and look to what the future holds - "Where will I be in 7 to 10 years? and What do I need to do to get there?"  

As with turning points in a career, turning points also occur in relationships. Couples take stock of where their relationship is now and what will it be like in the future. Developing a vision together is critical step in a relationship.  Without a shared vision, a couple will run the risk of growing apart.  

One of the most difficult issues for couples face today is how to balance career, marriage and family. 

The Mental and Physical Effects of Stress

Stress in any form can cause numerous health problems, ranging from anxieties, phobias, digestive problems, even becoming more susceptable to illnesses all because STRESS wears down your immune system.


Relational stress - in the home, family, workplace and any other interactions taken seriously - that has a high level of negativity and/or conflict is more likely to cause some level of coronary event than of course that of a more positive aspect.

Stress can also, over time, have a very detrimental effect on the neurological centers in the brain. When exposed to emotional stress over extended periods of time, a breakdown occurs in the neo-cortex - the center of reason, logic and higher functions of the brain - resulting in the loss of control over emotional responses.

There's no way to get rid of all the stressors in our lives but we can do things to make our lives easier to manage.  We should contiunally work toward developing healthy and positive relationships.  There are also times when we should step away and remove ourselves from stressful environments.  Exercising, listening to soft music, yoga, meditation, getting together with friends or a warm bubble bath at the end of the day are only a few suggestions of ways to feel better, to feel more in control of life. Sometimes alone time in a quiet environment helps to calm the mind, body and spirit allowng you to work on yourself from the inside out.

RECONCILIATION

In the blink of an eye everything can change.

Forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never have that chance again.

The strength behind true reconciliation comes through the acts of apologizing and forgiving. The need for an apology and forgiveness may involve one or both parties. The parties involved must recognize their own part in the event, the weakness within themselves that caused the estrangement and desire reconciliation enough to put ego aside and move forward toward reconciliation.

REJECTION

Rejection comes from a variety of sources: pre- or current employers, family or friends. Rejection begins and ends with naming the faults of but never recognizing the strengths in the rejected individual. Understanding the mechanisms of rejection and making positive choices of how to handle negative message are the most fundamental keys to safeguarding your self esteem and sense of self worth.